Different From Your Family? Go After the Career You Want: It’s Ok!

by | Aug 25, 2023 | Mindset

You no longer have to feel like the only “outsider” trying to make it in the corporate world. You have every right to create a career and life outside the norms you grew up with. This is YOUR journey.

If you’re like me, religion shaped your entire world growing up. Your community, identity, and vision for the future revolved around its teachings. Stepping outside those norms felt scary, even impossible.

Yet here you are embarking on a career that barely resembles the path you were “supposed” to follow.

The corporate world of networking events, office politics, and self-promotion can seem totally foreign. You find yourself wondering:

“Did my background actually prepare me for this at all?”
“Am I the only one feeling completely lost and alone?”
“How do I discern who I can really trust to help me succeed on my own terms?”

You vacillate between determination to create a better life for yourself and moments of frustration, anger, and doubt.

But know this:

You absolutely can build an amazing career and life, no matter how dramatically different it may look from your upbringing.

We Know How Confusing the Transition Can Feel

As female first-generation professionals, we grew up in strict, traditional environments, too.

One of us (Torah) broke from an Amish community to pave her own way through higher education and entrepreneurship. The other (May), an Asian immigrant, blazed her own trail in the corporate field and higher education. Each of us are leaders in our chosen niches.

Neither path was easy. We faced judgment from loved ones and struggled to find our place as outsiders in a cutthroat working world.

Yet we discovered you can remain true to your deepest values while also gaining the skills to thrive professionally.

With the right mindset shift and support network, you can, too.

Tune Out the Naysayers

First, give yourself permission to mute the voices of doubt – whether they come from inside or around you.

Remind yourself: you have every right to create a career and life outside the norms you grew up with. This is YOUR journey.

Avoid buying into the fear-based mentalities pervading traditional communities. Know you can uphold moral character while succeeding in business.

Surround yourself with positive influences who believe in your abilities even when you don’t. Their confidence will help drown out the naysayers.

You Have More Strength Than You Realize

Also recognize everything you’ve already overcome.

By achieving a college degree as a first-generation professional, you’ve displayed incredible resilience.

This transition is simply the next phase of an inspiring journey – one requiring courage many never find. Be proud of how far you’ve come.

You already have the tenacity and grit to become the leader you envision. Now it’s just about having the right guidance and community around you.

You Can Succeed Without Sacrificing Your Values

With Executive Insider, you’ll learn to navigate corporate dynamics and excel professionally, all while staying true to who you are.

We know exactly how to help first-gen talent own their worth and thrive on their own terms.

You’ll gain insider strategies for:

    • Constructing a resume that gets noticed
    • Using storytelling to ace interviews
    • Networking authentically to create opportunities
    • Influencing and negotiating skillfully and respectfully
    • Leading with emotional intelligence and ethics
    • Balancing work and personal fulfillment

Imagine being able to build the professional success you desire without compromising your character or beliefs. It’s possible!

A Supportive Community Is Waiting

You no longer have to feel like the only “outsider” trying to make it in the corporate world.

An empowering community of fellow first-generation professionals from all backgrounds is here.

At Executive Insider, we’re invested in your growth and fulfillment on this journey. Let us reassure you that you CAN create the life you envision, even if it’s far different than you expected.

Your path ahead is uncharted, but you don’t have to walk it alone. Join us today and surround yourself with mentors ready to champion your highest potential.

This is just the beginning of an inspiring new chapter. Together, we’ll make sure it leads you right where you want to go.

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As co-founder of Executive Insider, Torah Bontrager brings a unique blend of entrepreneurial, nonprofit, and AI expertise to her work, focused on overcoming the challenges faced by first-generation professionals (FGPs). She architects the holistic infusion of artificial intelligence throughout the RISE curriculum's pedagogy. As co-founder of Executive Insider, May Teo is an educator, mentor, and curriculum designer dedicated to advancing the careers of First-Generation Female Professionals. She leads the development of the RISE curriculum, a multi-tiered leadership pathway that equips women to transition from survival mode to visible, impactful leadership.

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